8 Ways to Rekindle Romance After the Kids Have Moved Out
By Dr. Jess
Here are a few tips for empty nesters looking to rekindle the flame:
Spend time apart
With a newly emptied nest, it’s easy to fall into the habit of doing everything together from grocery shopping to cleaning the house. However, performing mundane tasks as a team only serves to replace your roles as co-parents as opposed to encouraging romantic reconnection. Spending time apart is just as important as enjoying your time together, so sign up for a class or join separate clubs so that you have lots to talk about when you are together.
Go back to the beginning
Take a trip down memory lane. Whether you visit the site of your first date or replay music from your wedding, recalling the happiest and most romantic moments offers a reminder of why you fell in love in the first place.
Redesign one area of your home with romance in mind
Over the years, you likely transformed you home into a kid and teen-friendly haven and now it’s time for a design with adults in mind. Convert the kids’ rooms into entertainment areas, hobby rooms or a home gym as a reminder that you’re starting a fresh chapter as a couple.
Invest in a prop or toy
Sometimes props are all the encouragement you need to remind yourselves that you’re sexual beings. Keep ASTROGLIDE’s Warming Liquid on hand for afternoon sessions (there’s nothing to stop you now!) or buy a few extra pillows for the bed to be used as inspiration for new positions.
Schedule relationship check-ins
You may feel uncomfortable at first, but short monthly check-ins may be just what you need to heighten intimacy and rekindle the flame. Start by answering three simple questions over brunch:
- What is going well in your relationship?
- What can you change to make your partner happier?
- What do you appreciate about your partner?
- Hang out with other couples
Hang out with other couples
Happiness is contagious (and so is divorce), so surround yourself with happy friends and feed off of their energy.
Plan a trip without the kids
Being alone as a couple may feel like a foreign concept, but you’ll have to get used to it sooner rather than later. If possible, book a short getaway on your way home from dropping the kid(s) off at college. Some successful empty nest celebrations might include a wine tour, a spa getaway or even a night at a nice hotel.
Dream together
You likely put your lives and careers on hold temporarily while the kids were still growing, but now it’s time to refocus your energy on yourselves. Sit down and make a list of dreams you’d like to live out. From scuba diving and salsa dancing to taking a pilgrimage or visiting your parents’ home country, anything goes! Post the list on your fridge and cross off the items one at a time.
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